Telltale Signs It’s Time to End Your Relationship

Telltale Signs It’s Time to End Your Relationship

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If you are upset all the time with yourself or your sweetheart, it may be time to re-think about the relationship you are in. You deserve to be happy and you owe it to your partner to allow him or her to have the same chance of happiness. Check out these signs when you should call it quits on your relationship.

Being Used

No one likes a user, but a user in a dating relationship is especially bad. If you feel that you are being taken advantage of, it might be time to put an end to your relationship. There should be equal contribution for all areas of your dating life. Those who use and abuse the benefits of being with another individual can rob the enjoyment and pleasure of simply being together. The list below shows a few common ways people are used in a relationship.

  • Sex – Are you the late night booty call? Being used for sex can make you feel dirty, cheap and well, used. If all you ever do with your partner is hookups at random parts of the day, chances are you don’t have a stable grounding for your relationship. Don’t be with someone who makes you feel like an object.
  • Money –Got bank? While supporting someone while they are temporarily light on cash or unemployed, the key word here is “temporary.” Whipping out your credit card for everything from food to clothes and even rent will not only suck your bank account dry, it will add stress to your life. Talk to you partner and discuss ways to equally share financial responsibilities. If you partner won’t talk about it or does not want to share the burden, you should think about getting out.
  • Image –Having and ego problem or self-conscious issues can make you feel just as cheap and dirty as being used for sex. You might like being a showpiece for a short while, but if a trophy is all that you are to your partner, then the relationship is doomed. Your partner should view you as a human being with feelings, dreams and aspirations. You are not just a piece for an art collection.
  • Happiness –Forget the Jerry Maguire “You complete me” line. The simple fact is, you should complete yourself. If your partner can only find happiness in being with you, take a step back. This is not to say your significant other can’t miss you while you are away, but if they are expecting for you to make them happy all the time, you might begin to feel claustrophobic.

Keeping Financial Secrets

Finances are a key issue why many couples fight. Of all the issues that trouble couples, a study done by the National Survey of Families and Households shows that financial reasons where the greatest causes of divorce. Financial disputes cause stress and worry. Learn a couple of big reasons when you should consider getting away from your partner.

Hiding Statements from You

If you suspect he is hiding information on his credit card statements, warning bells should be going off in your head. You should be able to see his credit card and bank statements and he should be able to see yours. Not doing so leads to suspicion which leads to stress. Ask your partner what he or she is hiding. Hiding a surprise trip for your birthday is one thing, but regularly keeping statements from you is not healthy.

Not Disclosing Debt

Hiding credit card debt is a big no-no. Psychologist Susan Heitler says it is important to come clean with your partner. Racking up secret debt and not telling your partner can lead to financial problems and mistrust. If you find out that your partner is spending secretly and not keeping you informed it raises the question of whether or not your partner is someone you can rely on and trust. Don’t get saddled with a lying partner and a bunch of credit card debt.

An Affair

This one should be a no-brainer. As with trust on money issues, you should be able to trust your partner when he or she is out with someone of the opposite sex. If you have discussed mutual exclusivity and have agreed on being each other’s only partner, breaking that decision leads again to stress, suspicion and feelings of failure. Your partner should look to you to for his or her sexual needs, not everyone else.

You wouldn’t allow a co-worker or friend to lie, cheat and steal from you, and you shouldn’t let it happen with your partner. Be diplomatic and communicate with your partner if you suspect major issues. Don’t stay with someone who is abusing you in any way.

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